and that is okay. This feeling is needed. Sometimes you need to experience pain in order to feel stronger tomorrow. Yet, you may wonder where to find that strength and power to wake up confident in the morning.
Low self-esteem is a worldwide problem. Society tends to demand too much from us. Those stronger of us survive while others start believing they are weak, unsuccessful and miserable. If you are unsure of yourself, it is time to develop high self-esteem and adopt new habits.
1. Immerse yourself in self-education
Self-education doesn’t mean reading dozens of books. Focus exclusively on what can boost your intelligence. The more you know, the more confident you feel. Acquire new knowledge. Change your body language. Better your speaking and listening skills. Boost your career. Never stop learning and your self-esteem will never drop.
2. Stop making yourself your second priority
Managing my people pleaser tendencies continues to be an everlasting battle for me. I’m still struggling. I used to believe that if I didn’t do what others expected from me, everyone would hate me. Thankfully, now I have a different point of view. I have made myself my first priority. This does not mean I have ditched my family and friends. It means I begin respecting myself.
If you wear yourself too thin, you should stop it as soon as possible. Stop pleasing others. Stop neglecting yourself. Say no when needed. Carve out more time for yourself. Once you make yourself your very first priority, you will have time to feel proud of your achievements thus begin respecting yourself.
3. Acknowledge your blunders
Failures and mistakes help you grow as a person. It is a part of your self-development. Running away from your blunders will cause lots of stress and significantly reduce your self-esteem. Take risks and commit mistakes. Your failed project is not a sign that you are a bad worker. It is a sign that you are not afraid to accomplish difficult tasks. Finally, it is a sign that you are strong and brave enough to acknowledge your blunders and move on.
4. Go with what feels right
Your intuition is your treasure. Your guide. Your spirit helper. Go with what feels right to you and let your inner voice help you. When you suppress your true feelings, emotions and desires, you feel down and lose your self-esteem. You believe you are not good or smart enough to follow your dreams. The truth is you are capable of doing anything human beings can do.
5. Fill your mind with positive affirmations
Accept compliments. Be happy for your achievements. Set goals and tell yourself that you will definitely reach all of them. If not, you will find another way. Live in harmony with your flaws. There is nothing wrong with you. Each drawback is a sign that you are special. Start each day with telling yourself positive things. That will make a difference in your entire day.
6. Do not be your own enemy
Rather than discover your shortcomings, explore your best traits. Help yourself to be the best version of yourself. Take care of your health. Eat whole food, stay hydrated and get enough sleep. When you feel healthy, you look healthy. You make correct choices and feel power that helps you stay confident about yourself.
7. Do not let anyone cripple your spirit
I will tell you one thing that hopefully you will remember forever. People would never ever talk about you, gossip about you, and never ever try to bring you down, if you were not successful. They simply envy you. Whatever they say, do not let their words ruin your spirit and hurt your soul. Drop them. Spend more time with those who lift your spirit and make you feel awesome.
8. Calm your fears
Whatever it takes, face your fear. Fear can instill doubts in your mind and damage your self-esteem. Whether it is the fear of failure or the fear of breakup, get rid of it. We are designed to have fears so it may seem unrealistic to overcome them. But you have a great willpower to take a full control of your fear and calm it before it kills your self-esteem for good.
9. Do not ignore criticism
Nobody likes or wants to be criticized. Sometimes, criticism is useful, though. Pay attention to what others say. Don’t take it personally. Use any criticism for educational purpose. Just like mistakes and failures, it helps us become better. If you feel that someone’s criticism has no sense, forget and move on. Your time is more precious than their negative words.
10. Stop staring at the ground
Make eye contact. Keep your head high. Your posture plays a critical role in how you look and feel. People will see that you are not afraid to look in their eyes, which means you are confident about what you say and do. Show the world that nothing and nobody will ever break your confidence. This is one of the easiest ways to develop high self-esteem.
Figure out what or who is trying to ruin your self-esteem and remove it or them from your life. No one else is responsible for your confidence. You are the only one who decides whether you want to follow your own path or cling to the crowd. Hopefully, this article has helped you gain the level of confidence you crave.